This is a serious issue now a days with a lot of parents. I just wanted to discuss this an put my thoughts out there on this subject. Do I believe in it? Yes, but to a certain point. See I don't allow them to paddle my kids when they are in Elementary school. I will take care of the problem from home instead. Now that my oldest is in Middle School, I sign the paper allowing them to paddle my child, but only after I have been contacted and have been told why they want to paddle my child. If I feel the reason is not paddle worthy then I will tell them no and take care of the situation when my child gets home. Okay with that said, most people say, "well they paddled my child without my knowledge." Here is what I do.. On the paper that we sign I write a note on that same paper stating; "My Child is not to be paddled with out my knowledge of it or the reason why. I must receive a phone call before paddling occurs." Then make a copy of it. This way if my child comes home saying she was paddled and I never received that phone call. I will grab my copy and head to the school and ask why they didn't follow my conditions of the paddling. They expect us to make sure our kids know and follow all these rules in the handbook, and we do our best to stick with it. So I expect them to do the same for me upon this one request. So back to being in the office with my question; If this ever happens again then I will take legal action against the school. Al tho I have not had any problems with this so far. I have told my oldest daughter that I have in fact signed the paper and she could get paddled at school if she isn't behaving. So she tends to make sure that she stays out of trouble.
Now with all that being said, here is why I make that decision. Today the world looks at spanking as wrong. It all depends on how its done I guess. Let me just say I received my fair share of spankings and I turned out fine. I still love my parents and in fact I'm closer to them then most other families who didn't spank their kids. And let me tell ya, I got some of the old fashion butt whoop-ins. Younger generations parents have let all the Doctors with these " How to Raise your Child" books take over their own natural parenting skills. I don't believe in any of these books. Most of them are written by people who don't have any kids or didn't have any at the time they wrote them. I don't need someone else to tell me how to raise my child. I will figure it out on my own, that's the challenge of it all and I intend to win the challenge. Now getting advice from our parents and parents who have had to overcome certain stages in life with their kids, well I encourage that. You can take the advice and mold it to fit what works best with you and your child. The good Lord gives us the knowledge we need to raise our kids. Yes there is gonna be times we feel like we have done everything and at wits end. Just hang in there, kids are always gonna try and test us to see if were gonna cave. Some kids are more strong willed than others as I have found out here recently with my oldest.
Now I'm not gonna tell you how to raise your kids. And I'm not gonna tell you to spank or not to spank. Fact is spankings work on most and then there are some kids it doesn't even phase them. You gotta do what actually works best. Believe in yourself as a parent and stick to what you say. That was my biggest down fall with my oldest. I would say one thing then she would manage to change my mind for me. Not anymore, I took back the reigns on that one.
Another thing I wanted to bring up, I was watching one of those morning shows one day about 4 or 5 years ago.Of course the topic was about spanking kids. One of the ladies said spanking your kids promotes violence, so that is why she never spanked her son. Yet her son was not on the show due to the fact that he was in Juvenal Hall because he punched her in the face. Sounds real silly doesn't it. Not spanking your kids because it promotes violence, all tho her son was beating the crap out of her. Now a days there are four year old kids beating on their mothers and even grandmothers. I could not believe the story I heard about this four year old a few years back. He slapped his grandmother around and then proceeded to pee on her while she was down. The mother didn't do a thing. This little boy was not punished in any way for his actions. You can guarantee if that had been my kid, they would still be feeling the sting on their bottom today for it. But that's just me I guess.
Back to the school issues now. Because of the way parents think now a days is part or most of the problem in schools now. Yes, I'm blaming the parents. When we take the authority out of the teacher's hands then kids have no reason to respect them. Teachers get into trouble just for giving the kids a stern look now a days. I mean really. Imagine yourself in the teachers position. All the kids especially teenagers, they are not sitting down, or paying attention to you. You raise your voice a little to get there attention and say "Sit in your seats and settled down." Then one of the students tells you, "You Sit down and shut the F*** up!" What are you gonna do in that situation? Be honest with yourself here. You could say, send them to the principals office. But if they have no respect for the teacher, then what makes you think they will have any more respect for the principal? Parents will talk about how, "they ain't spanking my kids or I will come up there and beat the crap out of them" and so on and so forth. But it's done in front of the kids, so in their minds they have come to the fact that they can get away with being disrespectful to authority figures. Lets face it, it only leads to them eventually not respecting their own parents. Teachers are becoming afraid to teach the higher grades due to all the violence in schools now. They try to give kids an education but at the same time try to keep them in line and they get lashed out at. It's not right. We as parents need to teach our kids about respect for all adults and authority figures. Even if that adult, teacher, authority figure is wrong. I know that sounds dumb, but here is the reason why. Sometimes adults are wrong and need to realize it, but it should not be the kids doing that job. It is the parents responsibility to defend their children when needed, but not with our kids watching or hearing the conversation between the two adults. I have realized when I get on a temper tantrum about a certain situation, well my oldest thinks its okay for her to do the same, and its not. Truth is our kids mimic us, so we gotta be careful how we handle situations in front of our kids. If our kids have respect for authority figures, then there shouldn't really be a problem at school, and that cuts out most of the paddling in school. We as parents need to take back the authority and demand respect from our kids and that they respect other adults/authority figures. At the same time letting our kids know that we are going to protect them and correct any situation that isn't right. But we the Parents will do that, and the kids not need to take it into their own hands. I tell my kids all the time, "If you have a problem with someone else and they are doing something wrong, come tell me and I will deal with it." Its a working progress, but at least it is progress. So take what you will from all this, I have put in my thoughts and opinions. Feel free to put your own thoughts in the comment block. I know some won't agree with me, so please keep it clean or at least use the *** symbols. I respect your opinions. I may not agree with them, but never the less I will respect them. Thanks for reading have a wonderful day :)
