Parenting a Pre-Teen

I have a pre-teen and love her more than life itself. I have always been very open and honest  with her and let her know that I'm always here to talk to no matter the subject or situation. I've let her know that she can be completely honest with me and I would do my best to help her and guide her as best I can. And without jumping to conclusions or blowing up at what I might hear come out of her mouth. When she was younger she told me everything in great detail and never hid anything from me. Now I have come to find out that a lot has been hidden from me and there have been several lies. I was so upset that all I could do was ground her. I couldn't say or do anything else for the fear of saying something I might regret later. I'm kind of at a loss here and don't understand why she felt the need to lie to me and hide things from me. I know there are outside influences and certain fears she may have, but I'm still in shock from all this. I just wonder when the moment was when she decided that she couldn't talk to me or come to me with any situation. So we have decided as of right now we are just gonna try and sit down with her and have a good long talk. Hopefully she will open up and talk and tell us how she is feeling and be honest with us. I just pray I can handle life as she gets older and becomes a teenager. Feel free to leave any advice from experienced parents out there. Thanks in advance. And if your kinda going through the same thing, feel free to vent here. I will be updating on our situation later. Have a great day everyone. :)





UPDATE!!!!
So I told everyone I would update so here it is:
After about 5 Days of being grounded from everything, she finally caved and we talked everything out. She now has an understanding of why its so important to be honest with me and never hide things from me. She gave an honest apology and I was happy to hear it. I'm just so happy to be past all this. I stuck to my guns and didn't cave in like I usually do and it was worth it. Altho she doesn't have the same freedom she had before, she is slowly but surely gaining it back. And computer time has been reduced to an hour, and that's only if she has all her homework and chores done. So not ready for my youngest daughter to grow up either. It would be nice if we could keep them young forever. HA! Well thanks to those who gave advice, and supported me through this situation. Everyone have an awesome day!

Confidence!!!

Well I finally got a boost of 

Confidence, thanks to my 

mom and her findings. I am 

gonna re open my cake 

business and have another go 

at it. So I will be juggling 3 

things and pages at once but 

maybe it will be good for me 

to stay busy. Ha! we shall see. What have you gotten excited 

about here lately or regained your confidence with?

Just a little bit about me....

• Just wanted to share something about myself......
  
  Have you ever asked yourself, "What am I supposed to be doing with my life?" I know I do on a daily basis. I have tried building my own business with making cakes, and they aren't bad for someone who never took baking classes. I even put up a page on facebook and got a few hits here and there. I noticed not too long after that, everyone else had ...a page popping up, I took a look and thought, "wow these are some great looking cakes." Then I got discouraged, and decided to put it on the back burner. These ladies obvisouly had experience, and their cakes looked better than mine. The more I tried the more discouraged I got and finally just gave up. I am a Scentsy consultant as of now, and it gets discouraging because there are so many ladies selling it where I live. I'm still going with it though and hanging on. There have been many things I have tried, and have quit. Only because it seemed too hard or there was always someone else better at it than me. Its a battle I'm facing and hoping I can overcome it. I'm a proud wife of a Crew Chief in the Air Force and a blessed mother of two wonderful girls. A woman of Christian Faith, and a someone who considers a great party just coming together with family and friends. I do have other battles to face in this life but those will be for another time in another story. I do know, that no matter what God has in this life for me, I am happy trying to figure it out as long as I have His love and my family's love and support. I'm not saying everyday will be great, but I have a support line. Do you have this same issue? If so how do you deal with it? Advice is always welcome, I'm just wondering how many of us are out there and what everyone else's story is.
  -T Coolz